Dalai Lama the spiritual leader of Tibet

My friend and I met Dalai Lama in Toronto today and listened to this holy spiritual leader of Tibet. Although most of 16,000 crowd there such as myself rarely know this guy, his smile and face is doubtlessly extra-ordinary. The brightness and simplicity behind that face reminds one of "Mofty's" i saw and prayed behind him in Mecca. Anyhow, as a reminder for myself, i would like to itemize some of his major points briefly. Before that, please let me warn you not to have seats where two old old tibetan ladies sit in next row because their smell will be driving u nuts!!!

- trust and like people. doubt and suspiciousness are kind of gradual suicide

- inner peace for each individual is the source of peace for communities

- dialogue is the key for solving bunch of problems (plz refer to my article re: dialogue loll)

- secularism prefered as the respect to everyone with any belief and religion

- do not try to change ur religion or belief. keep it traditionally but meanwhile learn from others...

- he was asked a question and he truly answered "I DO NOT KNOW!" please read it again! "I DO NOT KNOW" can be an answer even from big folks...

peace and happiness

در همه دیر مغان نیست چو من شیدایی

در همه دیر مغان نیست چو مـن شیدایی

خرقـه جایی گرو باده و دفـتر جایی

دل کـه آیینـه شاهیسـت غـباری دارد

از خدا می‌طلبـم صحـبـت روشـن رایی

کرده‌ام توبـه بـه دست صنـم باده فروش

کـه دگر می نـخورم بی رخ بزم آرایی

شرح این قصـه مگر شمـع برآرد بـه زبان

ور نـه پروانـه ندارد به سـخـن پروایی

کـشـتی باده بیاور که مرا بی رخ دوست

گـشـت هر گوشه چشم از غم دل دریایی

monologue vs. dialogue!

last few days was more than enough to prove my old theory:

we, glorous generation from IRAN, love monologue vs. damn dialogue!!!

listening is a taboo and speaking is our expertise!

days back in 2000, while i was preparing my master thesis in civil (structural) engineering, my grandmother explained me how strong and good the steel structure was at the neighbor's! when i said "no dear grandma, it is the shittiest structural framing i have ever seen" she replied confidently "u dont know baby, i see them everyday welding!"

a few days ago, reunion of fanni alumni for university of tehran students was held in toronto. believe me about 3 hrs, the only issue discussed was a proposed name for this association. a lot of comments were presented and it went on and on just bcuz nobody was truly listening to what mr. x or z is saying! the only thing in some attendant's minds was "after ur speech mr. x or y, be advised, i am the guy who forces people to follow my monologue not u!"

i was at a restaurant a few nites ago with my lovely friends whom i sincerely respect and love them all. a conversation started re: construction in canada and iran in terms of budgeting and construction time schedules...all of a sudden, i found myself in middle of a discussion which was going nowhere! i told myself, hosh pamak, u got ur professional engineer license, ur M.A.Sc. in civil engineering, u have been working in construction more than a decade in both iran and canada and lately u got ur real estate license...why dont u just shut up when there is no gain for u to discuss! if they insist they know vth, let them talk just listen smoothly as usual ...if they dont want to listen, let them talk!

wise people listen twice as they speak! that is why god created two ears vs. one big mouth!

my mentor was used to telling me how rude would be to prepare ur words in ur mind to attack ur dialoguer instead of listening while he/she is talking!

cheers,

advantages of having a girlfriend or being single!

ADVANTAGES OF GF:

1. u finally like or love somebody in ur life and she perhaps likes or loves u!

2. u have a friend whom u care about!

3. u dont need to worry about ur leisure times!

4. frankly, ur sex life is organized and unified without being jerk as one-nite-stand-man!

4-a. a big good-bye to porn, mas...!

5. ur friends is doubled if her friends match ur criteria!

6. u experience love lovey scenes, trips, kisses...

7. 85% of ur nites u go to bed with her thought and wake up 35% with her smile!

8. u think u r her hero and she is ur princess...

9. u have somebody to buy flower or gift!

10. u hug ur romantic life!

11. u dont go to casinos!

12. regular messages and txts which i would say 90% delangiz and 10% mokaddar konande!

13. u schedule fun stuff for both !

14. when u wake up and leave the bed, u have somebody to kiss and say "good morning khoshgelam man raftam sare kar!"

15. thought of someone at home when u r away or on trip who is looking forward to seeing u at airport!

16. u learn a lot!

17. u r not 3rd or 5th wheel anymore!

18. while u r killing urself under weights in gym, u have a big motivation!

ADVANTAGES OF BEING SINGLE:

1. u dont need to be worried about what happened in last nite party, today party or tomorrow party...

2. ur account goes up even without ur control!

3. u can be selfish just about ur life!

4. u can check out and consider other chicks around!

5. no nag, no attitude, no question whatsoever!

6. ur friends get back to u again!

7. ur business life starts!

8. hello old f... buddies!

9. u r able to focus on whatever ur intention would be!

10. u sleep 8 hrs, u work 8 hrs and u live 8 hrs!

11. being alone and thinking is back!

12. u shave ur beard, ur body and ur ... whenever it is required not on a daily basis!

13. no breaks no hard times!

14. u dont bother anyone and subsequently u dont get hurt!

all in all, having her causes 1000 problems vs. one trouble without her!

دیدم صنمی سرو قدی روی چو ماهی

بشینم سر راهی به امید نگاهی

افکنده به رخسار چو مه زلف سیاهی

الهی تو گواهی خدایا تو پناهی

بی او من و این کنج غم و آتش آهی

الهی تو گواهی خدایا تو پناهی

برو عاشق شو ای عاقل

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i wish...

i wish i could get myself leashed sometimes...
i wish i was able not to be extremist...
i wish i would not forget somethings...
i wish i would not ...
i wish i would...
but i dont wish i could or couldnt ...bcuz i CAN and WILL be able to ...